Showing posts with label Naomi Almond. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Naomi Almond. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Sunday Black Sheep: Drunken Duncan

Duncan Burris holds the enviable spot of two seats in my family tree. First, he was the brother of Rowena Burris, one of my great-grandmother's. Both of them were children of David T Burris and his wife Ellen Honeycutt Burris, who hailed from the Mission area of Stanly County, not too far from the Cabarras County border. Secondly, he became the step-father of my grandmother, by marrying another one of my great-grandmothers, Lottie Hill. 

Dunc, as he was known, was what we would call in this day and time, 'a party animal'. It is not known at what point in time he got that way. 
At the age of 19, Dunc married his first cousin, Dollie Burris, in 1899. She obviously only lived a year or less afterward, because his next wedding was in 1900. Dollie may have been the love of his life and the loss of her devastated him. What is known, is that just a year and a half after marrying Dollie, he was marrying a widow named Naomi Almond, at age 20. Omie was 8 years older than Dunc and had five children. As I mentioned in my post "The Divorce of Dunk and Omie", their marriage was not a happy one. Omie had made a full list of his comings and goings. He would stay with her awhile, come home, they would fight, she would throw him out, he would return sober and humble and promise to be a proper husband and she would take him back in. Over and Over. The cycle not unfamiliar to police and domestic violence workers who see this vicious cycle occur in many homes in similar ways. 
According to Omie, at one point, Dunc wanted her to put her children by her previous marraige out of the house as he did not want the burden of supporting them. Omie mentions having an infant daughter with Duncan, who must have died, possibly due to a fight between them. She said Dunc would call her insultery names and accuse her of many acts of adultery. 
She also accused him of adultery. In 1903, they had a son together, named Carl. In 1910, Omie had had enough of his drunken and aldulterous ways, and divorced him. 

Duncan then moved to Concord, in Cabarrus County and went to work in the cotton mills. There he met his third wife, another young widow, a pretty girl who also like to party. Her name was Lottie Hill Lemmonds. 
Dunc and Lottie were married on April 10, 1917.  Her three young children were 10, 5 and 2 at the time. Her two-year old daughter Bertha, would become my grandmother. 
The very next February, 1918, their first child together, a daughter, Dorothy was born. Birth certificates in Cabarrus County show two sons born to Dunc and Lottie, that apparently died as infants, as I have not yet found the records to them. R. V. Burris was born on March 11, 1921 and R. U. Burris was born November 2, 1922. Finally, they had a son with the initials R. V. that made it. Ray Von Burris was born February 17, 1924. He would be the youngest child. 

Lottie would die in 1935 of psychosis, with pellagra as a contributing factor, at the age of 48. She was also likely a heavy drinker, especially if Duncan's previous behavior continued or intensified. 



Drunken Duncan lived an uncharacteristically long life of 75 years. The Cabarrus County coroner must have known a few things about this guy, as you can almost hear the surprise in his voice while writing the words beside due to as "Apparently natural causes". Like Dunc was the poster child for an unexpected unnatural cause.

Duncan Burris, my great-great uncle and evil stepfather of my grandmother's childhood is buried at Bear Creek Cemetery, around a grove of other Burris's. God only knows where his soul is.

Friday, September 14, 2012

The Divorce: Dunk and Omie

Duncan Burris has the unfeted honor of occupying two spots in my family tree. First, he was the uncle of my father's father, as his sister Rowena married Eli Marion Lambert, my great-grandfather. They were the children of David T Burris and Ellen Honeycutt Burris.

Duncan, popularly known as "Dunc", was also the stepfather of my paternal grandmother, Bertha Virginia Lemmons, who would be raised by him, but not have fond memories of him.

Duncan was born in the western section of Stanly County, around the Big Lick area, in 1875. He would die in Concord, Cabarrus County in 1950.

Big Lick was named for the natural salt lick that drew deer, cattle and farmers to the area. In the 1800's, there were a handful of names that dominated the landscape, Whitley, Burris, Almond, Furr, Lambert, Honeycutt, Hinson. It was nearly impossible for a family to have resided in this area for more than a generation or two and not become a member of one or more of these families. Most native Stanly Countians today are from one or all of these family trees.

Duncan and his sister Rowena were the children of David T Burris and Ellen Honeycutt. Lottie Hill, my grandmother's mother, was not the first wife of Dunc and he was not her first husband. Lottie was the widow of Harvey Lafayette Lemmons, from the Lemmonds family of Mecklenburg, Union and Cabbarus County, a strongly politcal family, descending from the White, Walker, Alexander and Query families as well. His grandfather Cyrus Query Lemmonds had made a strong mark on the community with his speeches and involvement in local polictics and 3 of his direct ancestors had signed the Mecklenburg County Declaration of Independence, which predated the national Declaration of Independence.

Duncan's first wife was Naomi or Omie or Oma Almond, and their marriage was not ended by death, as Lottie's was, but  by divorce. Divorce was not anywhere as common in those days as it is now and held a heavy stigma. It seems to be more common among folks in my family tree than usual, however, as I keep finding divorce records among my searches.

Naomi came into the marriage with five children. She had been born an Almond, daughter of John and Margaret Blackwelder Almond, and had married Alphonso Allen Almond, likely a cousin.

She and Dunc were married on July 15, 1900. There was trouble nearly immediately.




Ironically, they were married by the Rev. J. M. Lambert, grandfather of Eli Lambert.
Naomi came into the marriage with five children, namely, Lottie, Hettie, Lemuel, Samuel and Adam.



The divorce papers mention a daughter born in 1905. She must have died as a child, because she is not shown in later records. Omie mentions abuse from Duncan while pregnant with the girl. On page two of the divorce papers, Omie claimed that Dunc had came home intoxicated on September 15th, 1900, just a few months after the marriage, and demanded that she "should turn her children out of doors and run them away from home". He did not want to support them. She states that she told him she could not do this, that her children were two young and that this enraged him and that he abused her and called her approbrius names.

Apparently, Duncan was lying low at the time the divorce was served, but by the time of the census, one month later, in April of 1910, he was counted in the household with Oma, four of her Almond children, and their son Carl.


Duncan Burris
Age in 1910:33
[38] 
Birth Year:abt 1872
[1877] 
Birthplace:North Carolina
Home in 1910:Albemarle, Stanly, North Carolina
Race:White
Gender:Male
Relation to Head of House:Head
[Self (Head)
Marital Status:Married
Spouse's Name:Omie Burris
Father's Birthplace:North Carolina
Mother's Birthplace:North Carolina
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Household Members:
NameAge
Duncan Burris33
[38] 
Omie Burris43
Flettie Almond20
Lemuel Almond18
Samuel Almond16
Adam Almond13
Carl Burris7

By 1920, he was married to Lottie, and their daughter Dorothy was born. The transcriptionist mistakenly added Burris to the names of the older children, but they were not. From Bertha, up, they were Lemmons.

Duncan Burris
Gender:Male
Birth Year:abt 1878
Birthplace:North Carolina
Race:White
Home in 1930:Ridenhour, Stanly, North Carolina
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Marital Status:Married
Relation to Head of House:Head
Spouse's Name:Lottie Burris
Father's Birthplace:North Carolina
Mother's Birthplace:North Carolina
Occupation:

Education:

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Household Members:
NameAge
Duncan Burris52
Lottie Burris45
Drotha Burris13
R V Burris6
Bertha Lemons16
In 1930, my grandmother was a teenager and still living at home. This time they got her name right, and her younger half-brother, Ray Von, had been born.

Name:Bertha Lambert
Age:24
Estimated Birth Year:abt 1916
Gender:Female
Race:White
Birthplace:North Carolina
Marital Status:Married
Relation to Head of House:Wife
Home in 1940:Tyson, Stanly, North Carolina
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Street:Norwood Road
Inferred Residence in 1935:Rural, Stanly, North Carolina
Residence in 1935:Rural, Stanly, North Carolina
Sheet Number:2B
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Household Members:
NameAge
Burley Lambert25
Bertha Lambert24
M Eugene Lambert3/12

By 1940, Bertha had married Burley, and their oldest son, my father, had been born.